These wheels

            One year ago Sunday, I took the plunge.  On May 24, 2007 I had never read a blog.  By May 26, I was writing my second post and actively reading other people’s.

            It all started with an email.  Hurtful, personal, perhaps even cruel, the email made me look for an outlet, a place to work through my pain and feelings of rejection.  And so it snowballed.  First, only people who know me read.  It did not take long till I found a community of people around the world, strangers who quickly became familiar with my most intimate secrets.

            For awhile, my blog was growing.  More people were reading, and it was an ego boost to look at those blog stats.  But, lately, as I have had less time to read blogs daily, the numbers have dwindled.  I do not blame people; we are involved in an exchange here, and for awhile I was unable to keep up my end.  But it makes me all the more grateful to those of you who stuck it out through my rough patch.

            I will likely never be a big-time blogger.  That’s not why I do it.  I want to record my children’s lives for them.  As a writer, I want to hone my voice.  And, as a person, blogging keeps me honest. 

            And that is the truth of it.  With people there reading, commenting, I can hold myself accountable.  And that has forced me to be a better mother and wife, but it has also given me a place to forgive myself for my failings.

            A year ago, I did not self-define as a writer.  I was good at writing, I had worked as a speech writer, but I squirmed whenever anyone asked me what I do.  Today, I have a manuscript, an agent, and confidence.  More importantly, I am happier with who I am and where I am going.

            I don’t use my kids’ real names.  I don’t post pictures.  I keep out some sensitive stories.  But, I can say without a doubt that my children are happier because I have this space.  They benefit from the community of strangers, friends, and people with the same last name I have found here.

            So, happy blogiversary to me.  To us.  To those of you who have been here since last May and those of you who have hopped on the bus along the way.  Today, today, please leave a comment or send an email so I know who you are, even if you don’t usually do so, even if you think I know.  I want to know personally who to thank for the miles I have come over the last year.

            This bus ride is just getting started, and I could not ask for better companions.

57 responses to “These wheels

  1. Happy Blog-o-birthday! I am so glad I am on the bus 🙂

  2. I hit submit before I could say that I am very much looking forward to reading your book, I know it will happen.

  3. Blogging has changed my life too!
    keep it up!
    good luck and all the best

  4. Happy blogiversary! I think you’ve touched more lives thatn you could even being to know with your writing. I didn’t start reading you until after you had been writing for a while but I did go back and read every single thing in your archives (stalker much?) and I know how powerful it was for me just to read it. I hope it brought you some healing to write it all. Thank you so much for being you and for sharing.

  5. ukrainemom

    Happy to have hopped on to your bus. Happy Blogiversary! So glad you have this space..for you…for all of us.

    I love to read your posts. You are an extremely gifted writer and it spurs me on to find my own writing voice and move forward in my writing pursuits.

    Also, you and I do not share the same point of view on a lot of issues…but I am learning from you and growing. In that regard I consider reading you and pondering your posts time very well spent. I admire your convictions and your action to cause change.

    Besides all of that, we are simply mothers trying to do right by our kids. Glad to share that common thread with you.

  6. I love coming here. I feel like I’m not the only one who is having a hard time being a mother and wife. Reading and sharing with your ups and downs keeps me grounded.

  7. Still reading! Happily!
    Happy Blogoversary! I love your blog and hope you continue for a long time. 🙂

  8. happy blog birthday! i think i’m one of your longtime commenters…that’s an honor. 😉

  9. Happy blog-o-versary! I found you a while ago and checked in now and then. But now I’ve found we are facing so much in common and I really enjoy reading even more.

  10. Congrats on the big milestone. Love your blog and so happy to have found you in this wonderful world of Mommy blogging.


  11. Wow…only a year? I would have easily guessed you had been blogging much longer! Happy blogoversary! Glad I could join you along the way and am always honored when you stop by my place 🙂

  12. Happy Blog Birthday. I, for one, am so glad you began blogging – I love reading your writing. And I wouldn’t worry too much about your stats (not that you are worrying) – but they will go up and down, up and down, and up and down again…

  13. I am glad you are around.

  14. Happy blog-versary! Now that I’m not a “regular” anywhere anymore, I’ll think of you as the ice cream truck instead – no regular schedule, always excited to see you coming down my street!

    Oh, but I wish you hadn’t mentioned that those weren’t the boys’ real names.

  15. Happy blog-iversary! I’ll never be a full-time blogger either, and I share all your sentiments about blogging. I’m happy to be a loyal reader of yours!

  16. Happy blogiversary, Em! I am so glad I found your blog, and that you continue to share your stories. Can’t wait to read your book. I’ll be first in line.

  17. So glad to have met you.

  18. Now why did I think you were blogging for so much longer? CONGRATS. Glad to have found you (I thank andrea of remainsofday). So enjoy our ‘coversations.’ I am sorry to leave such long comments–but you always get me thinking! And yes, our sons need to meet one day.

  19. Hooray! I’m glad to have virtually met you.

  20. Happy Blogiversary!!! I enjoy so much having you in my Reader!

  21. Emily–
    Happy B-iversary from a big fan of yours and a big fan of your writing! (I am always checking for your latest posts– and indeed was reading your post while feeding the baby–getting good at one-handed internet).

    J (who is now holding E) and I both wish you well!

  22. I love your writing, which is why I read your blog! We write for many of the same reasons, though we clearly write with different styles and voices. (And you are so talented–I don’t know why you would EVER think otherwise.) 🙂

    I love to hear about your two boys as well. They are so much like my own . . .

    So Happy Blog-iversary, to you Ms. Emily.
    As long as you’re writing, I’ll be here! 🙂

  23. I read your blog daily. Your writing always makes me think about and consider things in a new way. Thanks for sharing your life story.

  24. Blogging for a year, writing for… your whole life? You totally rock! Yay! For one year. Hope the bus goes for many more. Or, you know, whatever works for you. 😉

  25. A year already? Goodness. Happy blogiversary!

  26. Happy blogiversary indeed. And congratulations on the agent! I’m just at the beginning of sending out pitches and it’s a painful and difficult process to say the least. Good for you!

  27. Happy Blogiversary! I’ve been lurking for a couple of months now – can’t even remember where I stumbled across your blog. I’m not a mom myself, but you write well and I enjoy hearing about your life.

    Congratulations on your agent – that’s wonderful.

  28. Happy blogiversary!! I started reading from the beginning and boy have I loved the ride!! You have made me howl with laughter and shed quite a few tears- a true talent! Congratulations and I hope the ride keeps getting better and better as the wheels on the bus spin ’round and ’round!! (I’ll be there, all through the town !)

  29. I think many of us find blogging to be a stabilizer for sanity.

    I hope you have many years ahead of you here. I’m not ready to quit reading anytime soon.

  30. i’m glad to be bumping along in the back, and thankful you have reclining seats and air conditioning on this bus. 😉

  31. Happy to be on the ride with you.

  32. I found you only recently, but I’m glad I did!

    Also, the decilne in numbers may be due in part to the growing popularity of feed readers– I don’t always click over to the blogs on the feed reader, so it doesn’t show up as a “hit” (unless your program has a way of tracking that…)

    Happy blogiversary!

  33. Happy Blogiversary to you!! I am glad that I found your blog as your honesty and willingness to share have meant a lot to me!

  34. Have always, and still do, love your blogs. Great chance to keep up with what my old neighbours are up to.

  35. Hey, Happy Blogiversary. For some reason, I thought you’d been around these parts a lot longer.

    I’m still here reading. I’m just hitting everywhere in fits and starts these days. It’s the nature of the beast, the longer you’re in it.

  36. happy anniversary, Emily. i understand very much what you say about blogging having made you happier, and your children being happier for it. it is good to have a room of one’s own.

  37. I literally have less than 2 seconds…but I wanted to comment. I’ll try to get back later with a better one. 😉

  38. Happy Blogoversary! I am so happy you keep blogging. I love keeping up on your life and your insights, even if I’ve been out of touch lately. Will email soon, and hope to see you in a few weeks. Can’t wait to catch up on your happy news and all the other updates. Hugs to J and the boys!

  39. Happy blogiversary! I’m glad to have jumped on for the ride.

    Please keep writing! (And I’ll definitely keep reading. And commenting when I find the time.)

  40. Happy Blogiversary! It’s been a delight getting to know you!

    And I find that stats can go up and down for no particular reason, although things are never so quiet as the spring when people rediscover the outside world and gardens again.

    Looking forward so much to reading your book when it comes out!

  41. I remember finding your first entries on the Tag Surfer.

    You are Big Time in ways that you may never know, baby.

    Happy Blogoversary to you. 🙂

  42. Happy bloggingversary. I started out hoping for catharsis, and found community. I so get where you’re coming from about doing it for honesty’s sake. Please keep it up.

  43. I’m so glad you did decide to blog.
    Yours is one of my favorites.

  44. Delurking here. I’m not a regular. More of an occasional. But I enjoy your writing. Your honesty. Happy Blogiversary. I just did this at my place. The one year cry-out. Are you there? Are you reading? Let me know. So I’m letting you know.

  45. Cheers, Emily! Thank you for writing. I love visiting you every day ; )

  46. Just found your blog today and have enjoyed catching up with some of your recent postings. Thanks for sharing and congratulations!

  47. I just started blogging in November or December of last year. I’ll have to go look. A long lost friend who found me had a blog. Anjali, at LifeInTheHundredAcreWood. Her blog looked therapuetic, so I tried it out. And it is more than therapeutic, it’s almost a lifeline for me. You are right. It keeps me honest. It’s a way for me to work things out. It’s a way for me to laugh. And I am definitely using it to record events in my childrens’ lives. I love your blog because it is so honest. I look forward to your posts and will continue to come back even if you can only post once in a while becuase your content is great and your writing is superb. Happy Blogiverssary.

  48. Happy Blog Birthday! Yours is one of the stories I most enjoy following and I’m eager to see where your blog and life are going next.

  49. Happy Blog Day! Though I just boarded the bus a few months ago, I am finding the ride inspiring and rewarding. Looking forward to the next stops along the way.

  50. Has it really only been a year? I feel like we “met” long ago…but maybe that is long ago in blog terms. Now that I think of it, I don’t remember how or when I found you or you found me.

    Ah well. Happy Blogiversary!

  51. I recently pared down my google reader list to only a few blogs, because I was spending too much time reading and reading. Yours remains. I am really thankful that I found you when I did, that I got to read your “first draft” book here, that I got to laugh and cry with you as I remembered the not-so-great things about my own childhood. I don’t even remember how I stumbled upon your blog, but I’m glad I did. Happy anniversary, Emily.

  52. Happy Anniversary. I started blogging this year and your blog is one of the few I added to my blogroll, so I guess I’m kind of a regular visitor. I do like to stop by and visit other blogs, too. The blogging community is an interesting little family.

  53. Happy Anniversary, your blog is one of a few I check daily, I love your writing, I’m displaced geographically too and I have 2 boys so there are parallels. I suck at grammar though, why not give us a few lessons? Congrats on the agent, when did you find the time to develop a manuscript?

  54. Alittle late, but oh SO HAPPY to have found you’re blog. You’re writing is amazing and I will catch up on you’re archived stuff too.

    Happy belated blog anniversary to you!

  55. happy blog birthday. i am so glad you are here and that i got to read your blog as your story unfolded. i know what you mean about numbers dwindling–i am seeing the same thing as my time for blog reading dwindles. but those stats don’t matter to me like they used to.

    glad you’re here, friend.

  56. Happy anniversary Emily. Though I haven’t been commenting, I love what and how you write. I’m not a blogger and I only read a couple of blogs, but I come here almost every day. Thank you for taking such care with words, stories, and ideas.

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